Some of us find strength from words, whether it be an eye opening novel, a voice of experience, a song that almost makes you feel like it's been written for you, or a movie that coincidentally reflects your mind and life ... We need strength, we need reassurance, we need love and we need honesty. Simple, right? ... Or is it?
There becomes a point when you question your needs/expectations and begin to think too much, but is it that easy to ignore your irrationalities? Are your irrationalities created by your mind or has the energy released from a situation teased your thoughts to enhance negatively?
Feelings are scary, they're natural, but we can torture ourselves into manipulating our once positive feelings into something we don't want to feel or assume.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Is it due to the scars that our pasts have left behind? Or is it the need for reassurance?
Is it the want to be the 'everything' for the person that you thought you'd found worthy enough to have all of you? When that is not apparent and there's no reassuring involved, why do we feel unwanted? It should not be that way. Maybe our negativeness and fear is what creates the situation in the first place.
Honesty and caring creates trust, we should trust those that are honest and believe that what is said is true, if it's a lie, then that particular person isn't the person you thought they were.
Give your heart to those that care for it, those that really want it, don't let the scars of your past or theirs be a barrier to happiness.
Don't want or expect too much, don't rush love, it can't be rushed in a genuine fashion.
Strength is inside ourselves and only by keeping that strength can you be all you want to be.
Say goodbye to those that harm your strength before you become weak, which you are not.
Sunday, 13 May 2012
Thursday, 19 April 2012
Your Facebook didn't say you have problems ...
Right, ok, so ... I bump into someone I haven't seen for a while, they ask me how I am and where I have been etc, so naturally I informed them of the fact that I was on crutches for 3 weeks and all the recent and tragic happenings that have been based around my work place ...
The response was odd, and after telling them such awful and eye-opening news, I hold my hands up, I was expecting more! The response was as follows: "Shit, how come I didn't see anything on Facebook? I was wondering why I haven't seen you in ages, but assumed you were ok as I haven't noticed any status' that say otherwise" ... Right, so, there are a few things wrong with this ...
1. I'm all for people using Facebook, I use it, let's face it, everyone does, but if you are wondering how I am, don't look at my Facebook page, you will find nothing that will tell you how I am! I DON'T broadcast every emotion I'm feeling or everything that happens to me. Why? Because it's Facebook!
2. If I'm ever sad or down, it is highly unlikely that you will be able to tell via facebook. Why? Because it's Facebook!
3. I'm not against people expressing themselves (clearly) but personally, I can't stand seeing all these status' that are full of negativity and depression, why would you want everyone to see your vulnerability, is it even real? Are you actually upset? I don't know anymore! Why? Because it's Facebook!
4. I've seen status' that contain alot of information about people's personal life's, I've seen those exact people moaning because people gossip about their life and get involved in their business - what do you expect? You're essentially welcoming that, and in some sick way you're probably loving the fact that everyone's attention is on you ... You finally did it! ... after several weeks of expressing how terrible your life is!
Grow the fuck up! Everyone has problems, everyone is skint from time to time, we don't live in movie land, this is real life, what happened to inner strength and positivity?!?! I think it's there in everyone, just depends if you enjoy self-loathing or attention from people on Facebook that only seem to care when you put up those ever so cryptic status' about how you hate your life.
5. If there's something wrong with me, I will speak to my friends.
Have we really lost touch with how to communicate as functioning human beings - we're so lucky to have this short life and have conscious thought and have the ability to make changes in other peoples lives. Why, as soon as something goes wrong, is all this forgotten?
There are people that are genuinely suffering out there, people fighting for their life, fighting for survival with no food, no money, no house, no family, no friends, and NO FACEBOOK!
Why don't I write my problems and feelings on Facebook? Because its Facebook!
The response was odd, and after telling them such awful and eye-opening news, I hold my hands up, I was expecting more! The response was as follows: "Shit, how come I didn't see anything on Facebook? I was wondering why I haven't seen you in ages, but assumed you were ok as I haven't noticed any status' that say otherwise" ... Right, so, there are a few things wrong with this ...
1. I'm all for people using Facebook, I use it, let's face it, everyone does, but if you are wondering how I am, don't look at my Facebook page, you will find nothing that will tell you how I am! I DON'T broadcast every emotion I'm feeling or everything that happens to me. Why? Because it's Facebook!
2. If I'm ever sad or down, it is highly unlikely that you will be able to tell via facebook. Why? Because it's Facebook!
3. I'm not against people expressing themselves (clearly) but personally, I can't stand seeing all these status' that are full of negativity and depression, why would you want everyone to see your vulnerability, is it even real? Are you actually upset? I don't know anymore! Why? Because it's Facebook!
4. I've seen status' that contain alot of information about people's personal life's, I've seen those exact people moaning because people gossip about their life and get involved in their business - what do you expect? You're essentially welcoming that, and in some sick way you're probably loving the fact that everyone's attention is on you ... You finally did it! ... after several weeks of expressing how terrible your life is!
Grow the fuck up! Everyone has problems, everyone is skint from time to time, we don't live in movie land, this is real life, what happened to inner strength and positivity?!?! I think it's there in everyone, just depends if you enjoy self-loathing or attention from people on Facebook that only seem to care when you put up those ever so cryptic status' about how you hate your life.
5. If there's something wrong with me, I will speak to my friends.
Have we really lost touch with how to communicate as functioning human beings - we're so lucky to have this short life and have conscious thought and have the ability to make changes in other peoples lives. Why, as soon as something goes wrong, is all this forgotten?
There are people that are genuinely suffering out there, people fighting for their life, fighting for survival with no food, no money, no house, no family, no friends, and NO FACEBOOK!
Why don't I write my problems and feelings on Facebook? Because its Facebook!
Wednesday, 4 April 2012
Appreciate & Acknowledge Your Consciousness
I understand that everyone has their problems, some small, some life changing ... BUT, have you ever stopped to think that the fact that you are able to experience drama, loss, heartbreak etc, is a blessing in its own right?
We are lucky to be alive and lucky to have been born into this world of luxuries, families, friends and most of all, LIFE!
We've all been through a lot and there is inevitably a lot more for us to experience - good & bad.
I was advised by a dear friend the other afternoon to live in the now and not to worry - this was lovely, and makes sense.
You know, like the buddhist philosophy: don't waste time crying/stressing about things that can't be changed, live for today ... And so on.
Now, I agree with my friend, and generally I like to remind myself that there is no use being upset over situations that can't be changed - after the crying, the problem is still there - better off smiling :)
Then again, is that a good thing? Surely acknowledging certain negative situations that may arise isn't necessarily a bad thing?
Aren't the problems we experience the very foundations that make us who we are and mould us into stronger individuals?
Maybe letting ourselves be upset from time to time isn't always a bad thing? Surely it helps?
You know, letting it out, being in touch with true and honest emotions?
No-one wants to cry, or be stressed, or be angry, it's an automated response sometimes.
See, I don't cry very often and avoid stress, but, I am only human, if it needs to happen, I'm going to let it - doesn't mean I'm weak or unappreciative of life, just means I'm alive!
... Just a thought ...
We are lucky to be alive and lucky to have been born into this world of luxuries, families, friends and most of all, LIFE!
We've all been through a lot and there is inevitably a lot more for us to experience - good & bad.
I was advised by a dear friend the other afternoon to live in the now and not to worry - this was lovely, and makes sense.
You know, like the buddhist philosophy: don't waste time crying/stressing about things that can't be changed, live for today ... And so on.
Now, I agree with my friend, and generally I like to remind myself that there is no use being upset over situations that can't be changed - after the crying, the problem is still there - better off smiling :)
Then again, is that a good thing? Surely acknowledging certain negative situations that may arise isn't necessarily a bad thing?
Aren't the problems we experience the very foundations that make us who we are and mould us into stronger individuals?
Maybe letting ourselves be upset from time to time isn't always a bad thing? Surely it helps?
You know, letting it out, being in touch with true and honest emotions?
No-one wants to cry, or be stressed, or be angry, it's an automated response sometimes.
See, I don't cry very often and avoid stress, but, I am only human, if it needs to happen, I'm going to let it - doesn't mean I'm weak or unappreciative of life, just means I'm alive!
... Just a thought ...
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